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Arts & Humanities: Dancing: “Question: Teenage problems?” plus 5 more

Arts & Humanities: Dancing: “Question: Teenage problems?” plus 5 more


Question: Teenage problems?

Posted: 13 Apr 2015 11:53 AM PDT

It's nice that you've called this 'teenage problems', because I can assure you that this kind of self-doubt is normal at this stage in your life at school. I'm 17, so it wasn't long ago at all for me; trust me!! And even though it sounds like a little teenage issue that isn't worth thinking about, I do understand that it can get you feeling down when you'd otherwise be perfectly okay.

I had a similar situation; I'm the type of person that often doubts myself and I worry quite a lot that I'm not very good at things, not smart enough, not capable. I'm just a little insecure, bit the ONE thing I had never doubted my ability for was English. From creative writing to letters, articles, or analyzing a book, I had always been praised for my abilities and I took comfort in the fact that my confidence lay in my talent.

Teachers often put a lot of praise on a kid if they show some ability in something more than others. That's what they did for me in English and for you with Dance. But it's not the real world unfortunately. In the real world, and in higher education, they will work you hard and make you better, being careful not to tell you that you're perfect because you aren't; you can always improve. Your teachers are trying to help you, and if you get a set-back, it should be an incentive to work a little harder.

Don't worry about not being the best in your jazz class. It's natural to have to realise at some stage that you aren't always going to be on top! But at some point you have to learn to measure yourself by your own standards, not next to other people. Then you'll just give up thinking that you're unworthy. Improve to become better than YOU were before, not better than your classmates.

With your grades, it's the same. School will always get harder, it needs to for you to be able to progress. Don't get yourself down; just do the best you can. It's completely normal for your grades to fluctuate as you progress in school. You just need to keep up with what you're learning and step yourself up with the rising difficulty of the work.

Your mum does have a normal attitude, because she understands that it's not the end of the world just like I do. It may seem as if she's ignoring your frustration, but she has the benefit of hindsight, so she knows it's only natural at your stage to be feeling a bit insecure. And she probably doesn't remember how dramatic it felt at the time, lol!!

What I'm basically saying is not to let minor set backs make you give up on working hard and doing well!!

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