Or do you feel that the responsibility of delivering a message is 100% on the speaker despite all of the filters/barriers that each person is going through?

Example:
Speaker speaks poor english (let's say ebonics in this case) and also has low socieconomic status (so they don't have a large vocabulary to work with outside of street terms); listener is an english major (a bit of a pedantic in language and its proper use) and has high socioeconomic status (so they have things that those of high SES have like limited time schedules and short attention span). So the speaker is trying to ask if the listener has any recommendations for how to treat a knee injury but the listener is having a hard time understanding her because the words used are from a filter she is unfamiliar with and actually prefers to hear people "use correct English", so the listener replies "I have no idea what you are talking about" but had she of tried to re-frame what she heard and ask a question back then she would have learned more and been able to properly assist with the knee injury.

I believe the above happens very often. Especially in marriages and relationships between workers and employers. But in those cases we hold the speaker 100% accountable and not the listener since that is what our culture finds acceptable; but what if the accountability for miscommunication was a 50/50 thing? Do you believe in this? Or do you feel that the uneducated should suffer for their lower SES and poor life choices?

Taking someone as you see them means you know and acknowledge what they are doing now and will help them "climb the mountain" so to speak and rise to their potential (should they see what you see).

Taking someone as their potential means you know what they are capable of and your expectations are at the potential and you are trying to "pull them out of the hole" so to speak and get out of their situation and live up to someone else's standards for them.

You see that 2nd case pretty often with kids being raised by authoritarian parents. "I know you are capable of an A, so stop slacking off and get your grades back up" versus "I see you are getting D's but that is not where I think you could be if you put more effort into it; let's work together to see how high we can climb form here. There's no where else but up from here right?"

So I think the difference is being in there and now versus being in the future where two people may not agree where they are going...

The information in the conclusion may be true, but not because of the validity or soundness of the premises. It's purely incidental. For any set of information, there are an infinite number of invalid or unsound premises that could be proposed to conclude with that information, but which actually don't.

I believe you (each individual) must struggle with these questions, as there is no easy answer.

And there really shouldn't be in grey areas.

For my own peace of mind, I tend to look at motives.

If a person does good with evil intent - the act to me is bad. Example - cons people into a trusted position by doing something kind, then robs them blind.

The kind act was part of a larger bad act....there fore bad.

If a person does wrong on a mission of good.....well their motives mitigate that in my mind, not forgive maybe.....

It's a delicate balancing act in the grey areas....some of it will depend on just HOW MUCH harm was caused.....

everyone has their opinions.
in my opinion, if a person always has bad motives for whatever he's doing wether its good or bad,or a person who can never appreciate what they have,or a person who does not consider other people's feelings,or someone who is insensitive and always think their right and never admit defeat even if they are wrong,etc
XD there is more but it's not coming to my mind at the moment
hope this helped! :)

A person who, has been to a place of depression, the land of no hope and the city of isolation - to then turn around and even though they are dying inside, they still keep spirits for everyone around them.

Unselfish, loyal, kind, brave, forthright, wise and above all else, compassionate