You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. Even if you don't like your uncle, you're still his relative. If you really don't like him, try to limit your interaction with him as much as possible. Be civil and respectful unless he does not show the same courtesy to you. Talk with a close family member who will not judge you about your difficulties with your uncle. Also, finding a friend with similar experiences may offer you some solace in your difficulties with family members. Remember, he is your uncle and though you may have some differences, he still loves you.

My father was adopted when he was a baby, and I've always been curious to find out who my real grandparents were. How do you figure out?

My father's side of my family are Mennonite, and my Great Great Grandfather came from Russia to the USA, some time around the 1890s. My oldest ancestor in my family tree Klaas, was born in Konigsburg, East Prussia and died there, my ancestor Klaas the third (I'm not going to show my last name), was born in Prussia but died in Muensterberg, Molotschna, Russia, he was born in 1785, and I believe he moved to Molotschna around the year 1805. Three generations later (about a century) my Great Great Grandfather Pete, left Russia and came to America. All my ancestors that passed on my surname where men, and they would have married wives in the location they lived. My oldest ancestor Klaas would have been 100% Prussian, and so would have his son. However when my family moved to Molotschna, their wives families would have been native to that country, and their children would be 50% Prussian and 50% Russian/Ukrainian (today Molotschna is a part of the Ukraine). The maiden names of the wives of my ancestors sound sort of Polish, Ukrainian, and German, The names of some of my ancestors where Russian, such as my Great Great Great Grandfather Nikolai. My family brought their Mennonite religion, and their (Prussian)Ukrainian mixed culture. My Great Great Grandfather Pete, spoke Russian, German, and later English, but my Great Grandparents only spoke German, and English. My Grandfather, Father, and myself only speak English. I'm running out of room so I'm going to add on a second page.

Update : Here's the second page, would my family have lost most of it's Prussian blood and gained Ukrainian, Polish, German and Russian blood? My families culture is mainly in our food, we eat Verenaka, Bierocks, Plumma Mousse, and lots of Sauerkraut. The foods seem like a mix of Polish, German, and Ukrainian foods. Prussians where German, and German features consist of blue eyes, blond hair, pale skin, and tend to be just a bit overweight. My family's and my features are dark eyes, brown hair, & scrawny